Your Family Tree

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I have been really struggling with a heavy heart these last few weeks. This is not what I usually do but I’m going to rant a little- Family is important! Your whole family is a tree. I’m not talking about a normal family tree that show’s how you all are connected. I’m talking about a spiritual tree that lives and breathes. Every person in the family is responsible to keep this tree healthy and alive. It can take one family member to make the tree suffer, but- it can also take one family member who knows love to heal the tree.

Every family member is a root to this tree. Whatever is absorbed by the root becomes part of the tree. There may be some family members who feed hate and bitterness into this tree. This will cause some branches to die. When this happens the family members that have become the strong healthy roots need to lovingly prune back the dead branches to allow new growth. This tree will only survive if you work together, support each other, be there for each other when you need to, and to give time and space when needed. Time and space allows growth.

The family members who love, forgive, are peaceful, joyful, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and long-suffering – in working things out, will keep the tree alive. They are the gardeners. I see so many posts about if you don’t like the situation then run, if you don’t like the person then leave, and if you don’t like the path you’re on then choose a new one. What if God is using the situation, person, or path to mold your character? What if he’s trying to refine you into a jewel? If you run what becomes of it? Not only that- but what if you are the one needed in that life of the person or family member that you don’t like? What if you were placed in someone’s life because God saw that you have what they need to grow or heal? When we run we prevent the work of God. If you neglect and run from your garden it will die. Jesus did not run from the cross. He was tortured, called names, and abused. He stayed- we are to be Christ like. Think about your family members and how you’ve acted toward them. Only you can answer for yourself.

If you hold any bitterness, unforgiveness, and hate toward a family member it doesn’t just affect you. It affects all the family close to you and even some who are not so close. When family lets you down it hurts the worst. When they fight among themselves around you it creates frustration and the feeling of abandonment. The family tree quivers and shakes out of distress and leaves fall. Families need to heal and become strong again, whether if they are broken or torn apart- Divorced or remarried, this just means more people added to the family tree. We all need each other in some way or form.

Love and heal your family today!

H.E. Olsen

“I would love your comments on this post.”

*My next post will be about divorce and why God is against it and why he allowed it*

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Heather’s Testimony for United Heartbeats- A Facebook Page

auston pics 4-12-15 023My life has been filled with highs and lows to an extreme. I have learned that life’s heartbeat will accelerate and then decrease it’s acceleration to the point of barely beating at all. I went through a time of darkness that brought me to suicidal depression. My heart’s beat was starving for oxygen. While I struggled I came to the realization that I needed to stop focusing on the circumstances around me and focus on what was going on within me. I sat everyday- day after day, month after month, and year after year studying the bible and praying. I grew in light and love. With this growth I foundauston pics 4-12-15 021 the desire to want to reach out to others- I want to help mend and heal the hurting, broken, and hardened. I want to wrap all into the arms of love, not just fellow Christians. This is in no way to push my belief on others but to help those who need it. The Bible tells us that God is love. So, regardless of beliefs or un-beliefs, love is healing and filled with light.

With the desire to share my journey I have written a book- that is nearing the end of the editing stage, and created a Facebook page. It was called Daily Devotional but I wanted it to be more than a Daily Devotional. I spent a whole day to come up with United Heartbeats. I Dance 001 (2)_3wanted this Facebook page to resemble my heart’s cry. I want hearts to unite and build a bridge across the gaps titles, names, beliefs, and differing cultures have created. I want it to be an inspiration and a light in a world that that seems to be turning dark. Please, if your heart is in accordance with mine and you feel the need to help the hurting- like this page. Please, if you are hurting in some way, struggle with life, or have fallen into darkness- like this page.

United Heartbeats will post Christian media as well as other uplifting criteria. I’m still working on this page and will probably be adding a website soon.

Facebook Page: United Heartbeats

God Bless and much love,

Author H.E. Olsen

Book Review: ‘WRINKLES’- A Perfect MOTHER’S DAY Read

I absolutely love the book “Wrinkles” by Mian Mohsin Zia. This book took me to a place where I was wrapped in the arms of warmth and held in the glow of true love. It helped me to appreciate my mom and mother-in-law more. Parents are important! I laughed, I smiled, and I was brought to tears. This is the perfect Mother’s Day read for mothers and their grown children- even teens. I give this book 5 stars!

~ Author H.E. Olsen

Heaven on Earth… 1/21/2016

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Luke 2: 14-16

14 When the hour had come, He sat down, and the twelve apostles with Him. 15 Then He said to them, “With fervent desire I have desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer; 16 for I say to you, I will no longer eat of it until it is fulfilled in the kingdom of God.”

Jesus knew he was going to suffer. He knew he was going to be lead into the lion’s den to be devoured, and out of love, he continued the journey. He was mocked and beat to the point of death. He didn’t run from this hardship. Although his body had weakened is soul was unchanged. He did not hate or lash out at his accusers …Instead, after he was nailed to the cross he prayed for their forgiveness, “Father, Forgive them for they know not what they do…” (Luke 23:34)

Every time I find myself in a difficult situation and around difficult people I remind myself of Jesus’ hardships. I pray, lean on his strength, and continue on. I remind myself that Jesus not only canceled out the old laws by his death, he became our protection, and he became our best weapon against the enemy, all by the spilling of his blood. But, not only that, he opened the door for us to heaven. Have you really ever thought about the prayer, “Lord your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” (Matthew 6:10) I once heard of people who were trying to find the Garden of Eden. People are always searching for a paradise. The Garden of Eden is inside of us, paradise is inside of us, heaven is inside of us. No matter where we are, what struggles we face, we can find paradise within the doors of heaven inside of our own being. We are a temple of God. When we defile that temple, allowing darkness to come in, we will not be able to walk through the doors of heaven. But, if we clean out our temple and chase the darkness away the doors will open and heaven will descend upon us.

Cleaning our temples is not easy. We’ll have to fight the enemy that we’ve allowed in. We’ll have to slay dragons that have affected us for generations. The battle will be real. But once our temple is clean, oh …the peace. In this peace, in this paradise, we can live and thrive. This peace will be our sanctuary through the hardships of life. Through the evil days it will be our protection and cover us through all trials.

Ephesians 6:14-17

14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—

Think of your body as a temple, a holy place. Think of the evil that you have allowed to come in. What needs to change? If people come to your temple would it have a good influence or would it drag people down?

Author H.E. Olsen

2017: A Limitless Life (HappyNewYear)

By H.E. Olsen


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It’s human nature to set limitations, to put limits in our relationships, throughout our emotions, and in or around everything that touches our lives.

I have lived in a world of limitations. I now sit at the center watching it destroy lives around me. I, myself, through past hurt, pain, fear, and out of frustrations have set limitations. Through the boundaries I created from these limitations I realized that this is all just another form of control. We try to control our world by placing limitations on people and emotions around us. We set boundaries to try to protect ourselves from the hurt and pain around us. The biggest limitation creator is fear. I have been so afraid to move forward out of the fear of what others may think, fear of the unknown, and the fear of creating and sub-coming to hurt and pain. Fear is hard to step over. But what we do not see, or realize, is that the limitations and boundaries we set will destroy us, our relationships, and harden our hearts.

We are not meant to control life or those around us. We are meant to control our own personal tongues and actions.

Being in control of our own actions (regardless of our emotions) will keep ourselves from falling into darkness or temptations, it also limits us from falling into darkness. Placing control on our own actions are for the good of our health, of our soul, and body.

Titus 2: 11-12: For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.

The only power we have of control is self-control! There is a flip side, through self-control we can cross the line without realizing it. There are two sides to everything, the good and the bad. When we place limits and boundaries on our actions and choices we are doing what’s right, but when we put limits and boundaries on emotions, the people around us, and try to control the situations we are living in, our lives will fall apart.

We need to let emotions, people, and circumstances free. When you set them free you will feel a release. A weight lifted off your shoulders.

Emotions need to run their course in order to heal. Whether they are right or wrong. don’t hide from them- the hurt and pain- release them.

When we put limits on our emotions it stops the healing and growth process. There is a reason why our emotions are affecting us the way they are. We are entitled to feel what we feel. We need to let it run its course. What we do and how we react to these emotions will define who we are. When we act out in hate and anger our hearts will harden, setting limits and boundaries. We will become weaker. When we act out in love, solving the issue and being forgiving, we allow the emotions we are going through to run their course. This will allow us to rise above, bring us growth, and make us stronger.

People need to be loved and accepted for who they are. When we hold expectations over them we judge, cause division, and create hate- in them and in ourselves. Jesus, Himself, sat with non-believers and sinners and ate a meal. He loves! When you sit to eat with someone, by choice, you accept them for who they are.

Matthew 9: 11- And when the Pharisees saw it, they said unto his disciples, Why does your Teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?

When it comes to love there should be no limitations or boundaries. For love to be at its fullest there should be no expectations or ultimatums. True love accepts people just as they are where they are. When we put the laws of expectations, ultimatums, limitations, and boundaries on love we become unsatisfied with our relationships. Our hearts harden toward the people we should love. The law of love is that there are no laws in love. Love is free! Freely given, freely received. When we place laws to our love for others we will fall. Laws weaken love because love stands strongest without laws. It stands strongest in freedom.

Circumstances are not for us to control. When we try we become heavy laden and stressed. God is in control! When we control our circumstances we are showing a lack of trust to God. This is a form of witchcraft. We are telling God our way is better. Let go! God’s laws are not to harm us but to help us rise. We were not made for His laws, His laws were made for us. Use them wisely.

There are only good laws under God- laws of human nature, spiritual laws of the divine, and laws of nature itself. These laws are all there for us. It is up to us to use, abide, and seek them out. To pick and choose the spiritual and supernatural laws that will help us grow spiritually. This whole world revolves around us human beings. These laws are not about limitations and boundaries but about bringing forth good in us. These laws can help us get past the limitations that we place in our lives- but, these laws can also be used to create limitations by our own choice making. When we go against these laws it will bring destruction and darkness. This is why the bible encourages us to seek the good.

Amos 5:14

New King James Version (NKJV)

14 Seek good and not evil,
That you may live;
So the Lord God of hosts will be with you

Seeking the good is not about just staying positive but about bringing positive from the negative. To seek the good things in life is not about staying in an upbeat world, not letting anything get us down, this puts limitations in our lives by keeping us in a warm spot and not allowing us to grow from the lows to the highs- but, seeking good is being in the negative and experiencing the misery part of life and bringing beauty from it. To be able to fluctuate easily from the up and downs creating a tapestry of many colors that will shine. That, after, when you stand back to take a look you can smile and say that it’s good, even the dark moments.

I choose for this New Year to live a limitless life! I choose to love without limitations- no strings attached- no expectations of anything in return- No walls, boundaries, and limitations in my world to harden my heart. I choose pain, and the beauty that comes from it. I choose the tears that life brings, and its healing power. I choose hardships, and the wisdom and growth I will learn from it. I choose to keep my heart open and beating. 2017 will be a year of completion and new beginnings, of setting my goals and expectations free, to let life surprise me with its goodness of being limitless.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I pray that this year will bring you all a new beginning. That your life will be blessed by God’s limitless LOVE. 🙂

H.E. Olsen

Check out my new book- Discovering True Love

 I would love to read your thoughts and what you plan for a new year resolution. Enjoy the song ‘I Believe‘. The words have connected to my soul in my life today. 🙂

Miracles…

Picture taken by Marti Lynne Glabb
Picture taken by Marti Lynne Glabb

Life is filled with Miracles! They can be big and they can be small. But a Miracle will always touch you in a special way. Some of my favorite miracles are seeing someone grin from ear to ear who hasn’t truly smiled for a long time, Every sunset and sunrise giving us a new day, and stepping out in faith seeing a pathway unfold before you.

My journey has not been an easy one, it may be easier than some and harder than others, but my miracle is staying true to the path of goodness even when I was blind and all seemed to be negative. Yes, I went through a lot of up and downs, in and outs, but I chose to find light in a dark world. Now that I have matured and have found understanding my journey is unfolding before me, all I have to do is follow where God leads. I am amazed by the blessings He is pouring into my life. Everyone I talked to about publishing told me that I would have to submit my book 12 or more times before it would be accepted. I submitted it only twice and was accepted both times. I turned the first one down because it was a self publishing company and I couldn’t afford that. I went in to this with literally nothing. But, then God brought me a publisher company that fit all my needs. My path was set. I am in awe of it all…

Some miracles may be big and some may be small, but a miracle is a miracle no matter what. I challenge you to seek out a miracle today. They are all around us everyday …sometimes we just overlook them. If you have a miracle you want to share then please leave it in the comments below and have a great day…..

Stepping into Today

Sunset for Bears 001Yesterday may have brought pain. From my actions or yours. Struggling with life’s hardships will create wounds. Some deep down or on the surface. Some may even be hidden, causing soars to ooze without knowing. So……

Today I choose healing. I choose to forgive. I choose to let go of the bonds and loose the wounds that have kept me bound (in Jesus name). I will dig to the deepest corners of my soul. I will break any altar I have placed my pain upon. That…..

Tomorrow I will be strong. I will wake in the morn free. Free from the past that held me down. From the forgiveness of those wounds I am strong. I will use this strength to stand tall for those who are in need. That they may also be free….

“From Yesterday’s pain,

I choose forgiveness Today,

That I will be strong Tomorrow”

Awake and enjoy the sunrise……..
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The Light in Us

Don't let your emotions control you, control your emotions....
Don’t let your emotions control you, control your emotions….

What brings out the light in us? …Focusing on positivity. To stand out in a dark world we need to act with goodness, love by actions, and speak kind words. When dealing with a negative situation we need to assess how best to approach it, then help guide the situation from negativity into positivity. If we act out from the negativity by lashing out from our own negative emotions then we are only causing more negativity. The light in us will be snuffed out. Fighting anger with anger will just cause more anger. Hating those who hate will just cause more hate. But, if we take a stand in love and goodness, Making the negativity stop at us, it will not continue or penetrate past us. We then become a beacon of positivity spreading light. Choose to be that light….

Being a Bullies Victim is a Choice…

Bullies are everywhere. I find as an adult that Adults who should be setting a good example are not. They are being hurtful and hateful bullying others. I myself have been subject to bullying as an adult. This has allowed me to see that I am only a victim if I allow myself to be one.

I may be different, I’m short, have stretch marks from pregnancy, lots of freckles, and also have a ton of gray at the age of 36. I am imperfect. I can laugh too loud at the wrong moment, speak out of turn, and draw the wrong conclusions. I am imperfect.

My imperfections are unique. Being unique makes me beautiful.
My imperfections are unique. Being unique makes me beautiful.

But, each imperfection is unique with a story. It is a part that makes me, me. I choose to love the person that I am, imperfections and all. I choose to be unique. I have made mistakes, lost focus, and made a mess. But without them I wouldn’t be who I am today. I have forgiven and learned a lesson. I have earned my right to be unique. Bullies may say what they say. But I am alright with myself. I am no victim to their abuse. Their words and actions can’t reach my soul. I will always choose to be uniquely me. In this there is beauty.

There is a reason that bullies bully. Though they don’t realize it themselves. They are hurting and filled with anger. Taking it out on everyone else. They become envious by jealousy. Then act out being extreme. They may see a person thrive with a trait that they were made fun of, a very sad thing, or simply just can’t stand the thought of someone succeeding when they are not doing the same. There are many reasons why a bully is a bully. It all comes down to bullies being a victim. A victim to their negative emotions from their hurt and pain. Of living in the past and not forgiving. They bully to feel empowered thinking it will help them gain.

So, give no room for a bullies hateful hurt. Stand tall amidst their storm. Don’t feed into their hate but shine with love. Blinding their darkness with rays of light. Creating strength by their weakness.  Allowing you to rise above. Be confident in who you are. If a bully attacks try giving a hug. (Yes, I have actually done this to see what would happen. It made them speechless.)

Now, I just want to say …children learn by example. If adults can’t set a positive one. Then the next generation will just continue, with hurt and hate by the adults who bully. Bullying creates more bullies. So take a stand and like my friends page. Lets support her in her walk of choosing to S.T.A.Y. (Strength To Accept Yourself)…….

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It just might encourage someone in need.”