By H.E. Olsen
It’s human nature to set limitations, to put limits in our relationships, throughout our emotions, and in or around everything that touches our lives.
I have lived in a world of limitations. I now sit at the center watching it destroy lives around me. I, myself, through past hurt, pain, fear, and out of frustrations have set limitations. Through the boundaries I created from these limitations I realized that this is all just another form of control. We try to control our world by placing limitations on people and emotions around us. We set boundaries to try to protect ourselves from the hurt and pain around us. The biggest limitation creator is fear. I have been so afraid to move forward out of the fear of what others may think, fear of the unknown, and the fear of creating and sub-coming to hurt and pain. Fear is hard to step over. But what we do not see, or realize, is that the limitations and boundaries we set will destroy us, our relationships, and harden our hearts.
We are not meant to control life or those around us. We are meant to control our own personal tongues and actions.
Being in control of our own actions (regardless of our emotions) will keep ourselves from falling into darkness or temptations, it also limits us from falling into darkness. Placing control on our own actions are for the good of our health, of our soul, and body.
Titus 2: 11-12: For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.
The only power we have of control is self-control! There is a flip side, through self-control we can cross the line without realizing it. There are two sides to everything, the good and the bad. When we place limits and boundaries on our actions and choices we are doing what’s right, but when we put limits and boundaries on emotions, the people around us, and try to control the situations we are living in, our lives will fall apart.
We need to let emotions, people, and circumstances free. When you set them free you will feel a release. A weight lifted off your shoulders.
Emotions need to run their course in order to heal. Whether they are right or wrong. don’t hide from them- the hurt and pain- release them.
When we put limits on our emotions it stops the healing and growth process. There is a reason why our emotions are affecting us the way they are. We are entitled to feel what we feel. We need to let it run its course. What we do and how we react to these emotions will define who we are. When we act out in hate and anger our hearts will harden, setting limits and boundaries. We will become weaker. When we act out in love, solving the issue and being forgiving, we allow the emotions we are going through to run their course. This will allow us to rise above, bring us growth, and make us stronger.
People need to be loved and accepted for who they are. When we hold expectations over them we judge, cause division, and create hate- in them and in ourselves. Jesus, Himself, sat with non-believers and sinners and ate a meal. He loves! When you sit to eat with someone, by choice, you accept them for who they are.
Matthew 9: 11- And when the Pharisees saw it, they said unto his disciples, Why does your Teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?
When it comes to love there should be no limitations or boundaries. For love to be at its fullest there should be no expectations or ultimatums. True love accepts people just as they are where they are. When we put the laws of expectations, ultimatums, limitations, and boundaries on love we become unsatisfied with our relationships. Our hearts harden toward the people we should love. The law of love is that there are no laws in love. Love is free! Freely given, freely received. When we place laws to our love for others we will fall. Laws weaken love because love stands strongest without laws. It stands strongest in freedom.
Circumstances are not for us to control. When we try we become heavy laden and stressed. God is in control! When we control our circumstances we are showing a lack of trust to God. This is a form of witchcraft. We are telling God our way is better. Let go! God’s laws are not to harm us but to help us rise. We were not made for His laws, His laws were made for us. Use them wisely.
There are only good laws under God- laws of human nature, spiritual laws of the divine, and laws of nature itself. These laws are all there for us. It is up to us to use, abide, and seek them out. To pick and choose the spiritual and supernatural laws that will help us grow spiritually. This whole world revolves around us human beings. These laws are not about limitations and boundaries but about bringing forth good in us. These laws can help us get past the limitations that we place in our lives- but, these laws can also be used to create limitations by our own choice making. When we go against these laws it will bring destruction and darkness. This is why the bible encourages us to seek the good.
New King James Version (NKJV)
14 Seek good and not evil,
That you may live;
So the Lord God of hosts will be with you
Seeking the good is not about just staying positive but about bringing positive from the negative. To seek the good things in life is not about staying in an upbeat world, not letting anything get us down, this puts limitations in our lives by keeping us in a warm spot and not allowing us to grow from the lows to the highs- but, seeking good is being in the negative and experiencing the misery part of life and bringing beauty from it. To be able to fluctuate easily from the up and downs creating a tapestry of many colors that will shine. That, after, when you stand back to take a look you can smile and say that it’s good, even the dark moments.
I choose for this New Year to live a limitless life! I choose to love without limitations- no strings attached- no expectations of anything in return- No walls, boundaries, and limitations in my world to harden my heart. I choose pain, and the beauty that comes from it. I choose the tears that life brings, and its healing power. I choose hardships, and the wisdom and growth I will learn from it. I choose to keep my heart open and beating. 2017 will be a year of completion and new beginnings, of setting my goals and expectations free, to let life surprise me with its goodness of being limitless.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I pray that this year will bring you all a new beginning. That your life will be blessed by God’s limitless LOVE. 🙂
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I would love to read your thoughts and what you plan for a new year resolution. Enjoy the song ‘I Believe‘. The words have connected to my soul in my life today. 🙂